Heal Anxious Attachment

Transformational program

Heal Anxious Attachment is a 1:1 transformational program that guides you from anxious spirals to grounded self-trust in life and love.

⁠8 x 60-minute 1:1 sessions via Zoom.
⁠Led by Jessica Alderson, a leading relationship expert featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Vogue, the New York Times, Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan.
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Rewire your relationship blueprint

The PAIR® Process is a powerful framework that helps you go from anxiously seeking love to confidently creating it.

Overview

• Phase 1: Recognize the Patterns. You can’t change what you can’t see. We uncover the exact emotional patterns and triggers keeping you stuck. You’re not “too much.” Your nervous system just thinks love is danger. It’s time to decode that.
• Phase 2: Rewire the Response. Logic won’t land when your body’s in panic mode. We retrain your nervous system to stop firing false alarms so you’re not just managing symptoms, you’re shifting the core wiring that drives them. This is where everything changes.
• Phase 3: Rebuild Self-Trust. You stop shrinking yourself to feel safe and start standing in your worth. You reconnect with your needs, your voice, your presence. That’s what real security feels like… Quiet confidence built from the inside out.

Benefits

• Stop overanalyzing every interaction and start feeling calm in connection: If you’re used to second-guessing texts, tone, and timing… that’s not your fault. It’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe. This process helps you rewire those patterns, so connection doesn’t feel like a constant threat.
• Break free from the cycle of chasing love that doesn’t meet you: Build the confidence to say “no” to what doesn’t serve you. You’ll learn to recognise what secure love actually looks and feels like and stop settling for less.
• Feel secure without needing constant reassurance: When your worth is no longer tied to how someone else responds, you become grounded in yourself. You’ll still want love (we all do), but you won’t need it to feel whole.
• Speak your needs and set boundaries without the fear of being “too much”: No more rehearsing your boundaries for hours or regretting them minutes later. You’ll learn how to express yourself from a grounded place and stand by it with clarity and calm.
• Attract partners who meet you with consistency not confusion: When you’re anxious, inconsistency can feel familiar (magnetic even). I’ll help you rewrite that story so you feel drawn to healthy love, not chaos disguised as chemistry.

Testimonials

• “Jessica’s coaching was honestly better therapy. I learned more from my 10 sessions with Jessica than during a year and a half of therapy. Things that used to bother me, do not bother me as much. Situations that would usually make me feel anxious, no longer do so. I feel like I am healing my core wounds, and in the process, I am becoming a better version of myself when dating, at work and with family and friends.” Julie P.
• “When I first went to Jessica I hadn’t been on a date for many, many years. I was paralysed by the fear of rejection. By working through what was holding me back, I’ve learned to feel comfortable in my own skin. I couldn’t be more grateful for her guidance.” Tom G.
• “I used to overthink messages I’d send. Get anxious if the other person didn’t reply in a certain manner. If the other person lost interest my first thought was “what did I do wrong” meanwhile now I’m like “not my person”.” Lily T.

You weren't born anxiously attached. You can heal it.

Breaking the cycle of anxious attachment isn’t just possible...It’s predictable when you follow a path that actually works. If you’ve felt stuck for months or years, it’s not your fault. You were just missing the strategy that gets to the root. Ready to break the cycle for good?

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